Shoelaces tied together
A form of bullying used against a person during a break or in physical education classes. It started in 1790 after the invention of shoelaces.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Although assault cases by girls are also known to occur, the offenders mostly target boys by accusing them of playing “girly” games. It is believed that this abuse started with the first toys.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Backpack loaded with garbage
A form of classmate humiliation, showing disrespect and threatening the privacy and personal belongings of the victim, destroying their sense of security. The first cases were noted in Lithuania during the twentieth century.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
School chair with writing on it
This is a form of gossip and slander used at schools, highlighting the victim’s real or imaginary character traits and appearance, making them unacceptable or revolting. It emerged during the eighteenth century.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Chewing gum in the hair
This involves double damage: humiliation experienced after getting spit in their hair and terror experienced when cutting away the hair contaminated with chewing gum.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Sweater with spilled paint
A deliberate attack by bumping or running into a person, spilling paint on the victim “accidentally”.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Bullying is often directed against new players and girls in spoken form, by saying mean things to them and as part of conversations or actions, hindering or even kicking them out of the game. This appeared in the beginning of the twenty-first century with the growing popularity of online games.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Items thrown in the toilet
This is something that is common in schools. A group of people all act against one person, snatching away his belongings and destroying them, hiding them or throwing them away.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
This is cruelty against those with poorer vision. Wearing glasses is mocked, thus making the person feel bad. This type of bullying was already reported back in the thirteenth century.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
The victim becomes a spittoon during class lessons and is attacked by small balls made from paper and saliva launched at them.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
A form of electronic bullying, common in social networks and news portals. It appeared in the twenty-first century when the technology became part of social life.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
An unpleasant encounter with bullies in the cafeteria when the food becomes a weapon by “spicing” it up or spilling it on the floor.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Soiled school uniform
A collective form of bullying. A group of people are cleaning their hands and pushing the victim around.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Offenders harass the victim with evil, demeaning phone messages or threats. This method began during the twenty-first century, when mobile telephones became popular.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
The victim’s talents are made fun of during bullying: mocking their talents, and making fun of or destroying things they have made.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
A child’s backpack is a real treasure to them, so it is very painful when it ends up in the rubbish bin with all its cherished contentsDonated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
This is one of the forms of bullying where an offender or a group of them operates secretly. School binders, notebooks or drawing materials are damaged in order to mock, intimidate or demonstrate power.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Deflated or damaged ball
This is a form of rejection, where the group’s rejection is shown by interfering with, refusing to engage in activities, or by destroying the game equipment. Its use started in the thirteenth century.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Note on the back
An offensive trick, often disguised as a friendly gesture – it happens as a hug, a tap on the shoulder, or during a conversation. It is believed that this method of bullying appeared in schools after the invention of adhesive tape in 1930.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
Cutting of braided hair
Long hair is a part of self expression. When a hairstyle is violently damaged a person feels humiliation and sadness. When the hair is cut bullies start telling ugly jokes about a persons new hairstyle and threaten that the situation shall be repeated.Donated 958 Eur | Goal 32768 Eur
How can YOU help turn bullying into past history?
For children suffering from bullying, it is very important to get support and help. Children often do not tell their experiences to family members, as they do not want to, or are afraid of their inadequate response. Confidential and anonymous conversations with Vaikų Linija consultants encourage children to open their hearts and share their painful experiences of being bullied. Right now, Vaikų Linija is able to respond to 1 in 7 calls from children. The Museum of Bullying aims to raise funds that could allow them to answer more than 40,000 calls from children a year. Help us to help you! Help turn bullying into past history!
How to react to bullying?
Bullying includes different kinds of aggressive and unpleasant actions generally intended to humiliate another child and cause him emotional pain. In a bullying situation, we usually see an imbalance of forces – the bullied child cannot defend himself because of the physical or psychological advantage of his abusers. Therefore, in a bullying situation, it is very important to help the victims – it is really difficult to overcome the bullying alone.
How to help a bullied child
- Talk with the child about the bullying and listen to him without criticism or accusations. It is important for the child to feel heard and accepted.
- Discuss with the child about how he could avoid bullying at school or in cyberspace – how he could respond to being attacked by his peers, where he could be safer, how he could reply to electronic bullying, etc.
- Encourage your child to contact, or contact the staff of the educational institution yourself if the offenders are from the child's school environment: class teacher, administration, school specialists.
What to do if you see bullying taking place among children
- Do not pass by indifferently or ignore it if you see children bullying each other. Your indifference can be interpreted as approval of such behaviour.
- If you are not sure whether the children are just playing or actually insulting each other – ask them what they are doing. If you see someone who looks like he is suffering, offer him your help. Sometimes, simple adult attention to children is enough to stop the bullying.
- To stop bullying, you must:
- Come close to the child behaving improperly.
- Prevent inappropriate actions (for example, stand between the offender and the victim).
- Speak in a loud, clear and firm voice that they should stop doing it.
About Vaikų Linija
Vaikų Linija provides free and anonymous emotional support over the phone and Internet for children and adolescents experiencing various difficulties. 130 consultants, of whom 120 are volunteers, together with children and young people, look for answers to their questions, listen to them, provide much-needed support and help them find possible solutions to their problems. Every day, in answering more than 300 calls from children and teenagers, the Vaikų Linija is sometimes the only place where children dare to share, confide and reveal their most painful experiences.
More information: www.vaikulinija.lt
WITHOUT BULLYING campaign
Every 4th child in Lithuania is being bullied by their peers and each year, the Vaikų Linija receives more than 2,000 calls about this problem. The Vaikų Linija has initiated a WITHOUT BULLYING campaign and has been carrying it out for twelve years. It is aimed at creating a safer environment for children and adults, and to raise public awareness and participation in response to bullying.More about campaign – www.bepatyciu.lt